You yourself, equipped with self-knowledge and enlightenment that these self development books offer, are enough to come out of any low that you encounter in life.
No other person will be wanted, no friendly shoulder will be required and no listening ear will be needed.
Self awareness is a powerful tool and that is all you need to face challenges, build self confidence and enable self improvement.
Why do self help books work?
The first question that perhaps crosses all of our minds is : Do self help books work?
Of course, they do. These self development books let us deep dive into unfathomable depths of our mind. They give you a sense and visual of what lies deep beneath the surface of your mind and consciousness, which you are unable to understand on your own.
We get insights into our own unhelpful thinking and practices. Being biased towards our own self, our mind is not programmed to keep us in touch with our weaknesses.
Coming to the question: Why do self help books work?
Our prolonged exposure to our own reality and complete nakedness of our mind makes these books work. We no more hold inhibitions about our own truth and reading about our own reality in a book makes us comfortable knowing we are not alone (although initially we do get uncomfortable when we read those hard hitting facts about our-self). The book speaks to you in a way that you have no other alternative but to come clean about your thought process, habits and behavior. Since there is no concern of judgments and opinions, we let go of the denial and actually work on things that need improvement.
So, here are 6 amazing self development books that are bound to make you mentally strong and relentless:
The Subtle Art Of Not Giving a F*ck
This, I am pretty convinced, is the best self development book for us millennials. You’d be able to relate with it just as prior generation does to The Breakfast Club (I tried to do a proper research on what is it that generation X associates itself with the most, came up with “laid-backness”. Didn’t want to write that, so instead wrote The Breakfast Club). Mark Manson has adeptly and boldly put together the fundamentals required to wipe out the inessentials from our lives. Obviously there’d be certain parts in the book that you’d be able to relate to better and those will be the moments that will leave you flabbergasted and amazed at how well this guy has sorted things out for us.
David Burn’s tone is quite pleasing and his writing relatable. In this day and age, when anxiety and depression have become quite common, this book comes as a savior. Obviously, reading the book is not enough to recover from depression. Actually practicing the steps and techniques explained in the book is what is going to help. I read the book and tried out the techniques to see if the book is actually substantial, and yes, it is pretty effective and scientific in its take. It helped me understand myself better and move forward in the journey of self improvement. (I guess I am much less sloppy at handling my life now. At least, my dog would vouch for it.)
Pema Chodron is an American teacher(and disciple) of Tibetan Buddhism. This book by her is truly empowering and beautiful. Most of the times, the bad things in our lives are the self-created hooks and mental traps. At other times, the real difficult things become easier or worsen based on our treatment of them. I guess this sets a premise for the book. Getting unstuck is a short read yet truly inspirational and powerful. It is based on the Buddhist ideas of attachment and mindfulness. A regular(monthly/weekly) dose of this (audio/paperback) book will undoubtedly will help you focus better and be in the now and here.
How To Stop Worrying And Start Living
This book offers some timeless propositions. Most of us adults are pretty bad at managing our worries and this is where this book comes to our rescue. Dale Carnegie provides a very clear and straight forward understanding and steps on how to stop worrying. The book is an intelligent compilation and Carnegie draws from common sense, lives of people and inspirational messages of business leaders and philosophers. The good part is that all the steps are actionable and easy to implement.
It is one of the most impactful, transformational and relevant book you’ll ever come across. Usually, it is very difficult to know if a book is valuable in practical sense than just the intellectual knowledge it instills. However, this is a very pragmatic book and highly applicable in real life instances. Maxwell Maltz was a cosmetic surgeon and his observation that not every person’s life got transformed positively after the surgery (facial surgery to remove major “deformities” of face and hence leading to better aesthetics) led him to this book. Through this book, he proficiently operates on the inner workings of our minds and helps us lead a fulfilling life.
The Road Less Travelled
This book is like wearing glasses when you have myopia or hypermetropia. In case you’re lucky enough to have a 6/6 eyesight, ask a person who wears glasses about how not wearing glasses feels. Reading this book is same for unaware mind(which almost all of us have) as is wearing glasses to a non-6/6 eyes. We go through our lives unaware or with partial understanding, and all of a sudden a book like this clears all the mist. This book is going to introduce you to your own psychology and open the doors for self-examination and self-understanding. It puts forth the methods of coming out of denial, confronting and fixing our problems through mindful changes.
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